We may do very dramatic things, such as harming ourselves in some way (or threatening to do so), going to the hospital, or something similar. I am also a Type 1 Diabetic of 17 years. And guess what? I know someone with BPD and reading the blogs of people who have BPD and are writing their inner thoughts help me to understand what is going through the mind of someone who has BPD. Share your story, message,poem, quote, photo or video of hope, struggle or recovery. But she arrived the next day with a police office to remove, most, but not all of her remaining stuff. my life is in shamblesi without her, im just ad much a mess worrying about her, who shes with today tomorrow.. Its as if we havent outgrown that. I have suffered with BPD since I was 11, I didn't get help until I was 34. She has been diagnosed, but refuses to even acknowledge that half the time (more than half the time) and I have had to take a zero tolerance for any crap in order to protect my family. It helped with a lot of other symptoms. I'm very grateful for his letter, Christine. That is certainly not easy. | by Marissa Young | Medium Write Sign up Sign In 500 Apologies, but something went wrong on our end. Its a cycle of negativity. Australia. It appears you entered an invalid email. When he is having his episodes he verbally attacks me. Since these providers may collect personal data like your IP address we allow you to block them here. That's fun too.) My wife, whom I believe has undiagnosed BPD, was hospitalized in February for SI. I hope that your sister receives the help that she needs and that you and your family get the support you deserve as well. For me as I gained more experience and I saw the positive changes DBT can lead to, this helped me to avoid that particular trap. A year ago, I could not have written this letter, but it represents much of what was in my heart but could not yet be realized or expressed. My BPD finance left me VERY suddenly, moved out while I was away, blocked me from phone contact, email contact, unfriended me on FB and other social media, sucessfully compelled her family and friends to do the same and even had a lawyer friend threaten me with a restraining order for calling her from a hotel phone twice! It's kind of just an awesome miracle that I've come as far as I have. I am co-dependent, which I regard as simply the other side of the coin. I asked myself, how can someone with four beautiful children and a stunning wife feel this way? You are free to opt out any time or opt in for other cookies to get a better experience. I am currently waiting for DBT treatment and your blog and videos help me no end, i use them on a daily basis, like i'm warming up for the marathon which will be my DBT healing, hopefully. Use non-judgmental words to describe our behaviours. If I continue living how I am, I doubt I'll see the age my mother saw54. I am generally very good at keeping my head, but every now and then I can behave a bit more extremely, and those are the worst incidents. Also, I was a VERY positive person just a few years agoI was even called a Pollyanna! Don't give up on YOU. What is a BPD such as she expecting from me? Don't expect me to ever open up to you again." Click to enable/disable _ga - Google Analytics Cookie. But I'm learning how to deal with it, thanks in part to resources such as this open letter. I haven't heard from her privately for weeks since. I work from home. After a few hours he will then realize the hurt he caused me and then he'd apologize. This post is just to give you an idea of the typical suffering and thoughts those of us with BPD have. After experiencing a lack of support at work, Beth became a champion for workplace mental health. Thankyou, once again, for putting your heart and soul open for us to share.xx. She cant acknowledge there is a problem, much less attend therapy or consider consulting a therapist. We may request cookies to be set on your device. Debbie, Hi Damask thank you so much for taking the time to write such a beautiful comment. I wish you peace. I have never sought treatment (aside from counseling) for my BPD, because mostly group therapy is suggested and the last thing I want to do is talk to a bunch of strangers about my problems . Remember that your words, love, and support go a long way in helping your loved one to heal, even if the results are not immediately evident. An open letter from those with BPD Jul 15, 2019 An Open Letter to People who do Not have Borderline Personality Disorder from Those of Us who Do Click here to watch the Video Transcript: Dear Friends, Family Members, Lovers, Ex-lovers, Coworkers, Children, and others of those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder, I have been diagnosed with other things except for this. It was so helpful to me. When I was scared, I ran away and hid. All we can do is pray at this point. Just let her know I sent you, and she'll be happy to point you in the right direction. I LOVE lashing out at my supportive boyfriend (thank GOD he is learning about this). I keep reading things about how we cant love and that people should stay well clear of us, thankyou for writing this, my ex split with me, a week ago nd ive signed over my house coz she has nowhere to go, she jus thinks im trying to get back with her and has been told to cut all ties coz I will make her life hell, just feel so alone. And he isn't coming back and it hurts. My intention was to describe the difficulty while remaining brief. Debbie, Thank you so much for commenting. It's sad that I would have to use our son as an instrument to get my wife in front of a mental health professional, but it is the only way I can see him being protected from the long term effects of this mental illness. No one is perfect and no one has life figured out, we are all troubled in some way. She has a 12 month lease but says she may come back sooner if go into rehab for her ( I am working on my issues with a therapist). Changes will take effect once you reload the page. I was told that I have BPD, and I am in denial of my diagnosis. Thanks for writing this. Thank you so much for this letter. Everyone is that way for different reasons so how do you know if you deserve for example to write a letter like this to give people around you so they can "understand" and not feel so bad about the whole situation. And it felt like nothing I could ever do to try to improve myself would ever matter to the people I cared for, because of everything that had happened in my past. Yes I can see that that it is a long difficult road. I've learned how to focus on the important things and how to handle my emotions. They tried me on several meds and hospitalized me when I started burning myself (unknown why) never did that before.but I remember being so angry and did not know why or when it would end. I am almost 50 and hate myself for having any of this. That some people really are willing and even eager to help, and that makes me smile every damn time. People with BPD are also more inclined to exhibit impulsive behavior or . I was diagnosed with BPD about seven years ago. ~ Dave M. Also, during those long recovery periods, she will fixate on a distorted, misremembered and misquoted version of something I'd said during the fight, always distorted to be much harsher than what I actually said, and sometimes completely "fabricated" with no basis in anything I said. Why is BPD hard to diagnose and really not curable? Debbie, Hi Andrea you are very welcome. We were always extremely close, until she got involved in a highly stressful abusive relationship. Have a great evening. I have lost my best friend and the love of my life to untreated bpd and have been in agony while she instantly moved on. On the resources page of. Anxiety about relationships, making efforts to avoid being abandoned. You are toxic. I've been doing gratefulness journals since 2000. Unfortunately, a few years later, the societal stigma against mental illness reared its ugly head. I feel forsaken by both her and the hospital that is supposed to be helping her, but has instead ruined our marriage. You may be frustrated, feeling helpless, and ready to give up. I have spent a lot of money and resources to help her in every way, only to be treated like trash. I am a DBT therapist and work on an intensive DBT unit with adolescents. Starting therapy can be daunting, and the person needs to make the decision for themselves, but your letter, and other people's experinces here can inspire hope in others, and help them through difficult times. You havebecome a homemaker, a mother and a wife. They both feed off each other. If it was just a figure of speech, please know that you can make choices to take care of YOU and to prioritize which relationships come first in your world. and I guess I thought tough love would maybe get through to her, but it's been 3 and 1/2 years since I have seen or talked to her or my grandchildren. You *can* overcome this disorder! Not doing anything to make it happenjust wondering why it hasn't. Thank you. and "WE" your partners love you, even if today, this week, this month, this year, you hate "US"! Offer to visit the doctor with them, spend quality time with them doing something you both enjoy, and tell them you love them. I am having to learn what triggers, when she splits I have currently moved out of my home where she and her boyfriend live, as she had a major melt a month ago. I suspect that if she were to sit across from a psychologist she would be able to fool them, but I am about to test that. You are likely to see this behavior from someone with BPD and unlikely to see it from someone with NPD. My name was stated here originally, but due to the fact that all of my personal rights to this story are irrelevant the moment I post this, I have decided not to give it. And a couple days ago I put my guitar away and said, Im done.. Why? I am LOST! I hope somewhere in her heart she truly KNOWS the love I have for her and though I may never be able to see it returned to me, I everyday press on in my efforts to support her and encourage positive change. The following are trademarks of NAMI: NAMI, NAMI Basics, NAMI Connection, NAMI Ending the Silence, NAMI FaithNet, NAMI Family & Friends, NAMI Family Support Group, NAMI Family-to-Family, NAMI Grading the States, NAMI Hearts & Minds, NAMI Homefront, NAMI HelpLine, NAMI In Our Own Voice, NAMI On Campus, NAMI Parents & Teachers as Allies, NAMI Peer-to-Peer, NAMI Provider, NAMI Smarts for Advocacy, Act4MentalHealth, Vote4MentalHealth, NAMIWalks and National Alliance on Mental Illness. The letter and all the post did help me a little tonight tho. Yes, it's good to have a job so that i'm out of the house and not laying in bed all day. 7. Ironic though since it was my family putting me through hell for years that caused me to develop BPD. My significant other felt the same way as yours that therapy was a waste of time and money, until I finally showed progress and began getting better through DBT. I wish you so much healing and hope as you continue on your journey. . Borderline Personality Disorder: Is there hope? He is aware of his disorder and I saw him fought many times. Not all of the situations I described apply to all people with Borderline Personality Disorder. Hugs! Someone with BPD might feel fine one second and then really angry or upset the next. I dont want to live without her but it is hard to live with her if there is not some hope of improvement at her hipersensitivity, overreactions, constant blame and white and black thinking. How I did not walk out at that moment is beyond me. Last but not least, thank you for the wonderful open letter. I wish you all the best. The stigma. I am sorry that my borderline personality disorder (BPD) got in the way of our family and us. Now she has totally disappeared from my life after just two years of marriage. While you can attempt to be sensitive with the things you say and do, thats not always possible, and its not always clear why something sets off a trigger. I would live and die alone. But I know this is fantasy. I hurt you again and my fear of abandonment means Im searching for a different outcome each time. You don't have to be completely "healed" to pursue your dreams. From 1947 to 1965, the state was known as the Romanian People's Republic (Republica Popular Romn, RPR).The country was an Eastern Bloc state and a member of the Warsaw Pact with a dominant role for the . People just don't "believe" in it and long-term mental illnesses. Open Letter. You can see glimpses and more and more of who that person really is over time, if you dont give up. Thank you for taking the time to share your story. This letter really helped me in explaining my condition to all those around me. One moment you might feel as though you love. Sometimes I hate him. It gives me hope.x. It's seriously messed up. I accept the consequences of my actions and how they have affected you, I didnt realize then how much it affected me too. And for all those who DO deserve to be helped, be allowed to heal, and their loved ones who deserve to be supported, thank you for sharing this letter that might help them all live better together and individually. Just be there for her in the end when she needs you. Those 9 criteria and what this letter describes is sadly what i think it is like for someone to live with me. Ive not recovered fully from this. Most of my family doesnt believe in my diagnosis, and any friend I ever made has left because of the brief periods of time when I couldnt control my emotions. You know what, I wouldn't have been able to write it 6 years ago. I am wondering what to do to help her. Her idea of help is everyone doing what she wants, on her schedule. However, looking back, all the signs were there, but I just didn't see them. The reason being, that it is common knowledge for those with mental illness to understand how damaging social stigma can be, but I believe it is just as damaging to read numerous success stories about people who have suffered themselves. I would be very pleased to share it with you. He wanted to change so bad I can see the frustration in his eyes each time he hurt people with his words. I am sorry you had to grow up too soon. Through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, we can learn how to regulate our emotions so that we do not become out of control. I thought life was hopeless and i would always feel the way i do. Additionally, the structured environment and clear communication skills required in event planning can help individuals with BPD manage their emotions and improve their interpersonal skills. Princess Diana: The disorder is also prevalent in royal families, and the most charismatic and famous celebrity suffering from it was Princess Diana. The intimacy that non-personality-disordered people enjoy is stressful . This is called dissociation. My question though is that, yes i have a diagnosis and relate to so much of what you say here, but the diagnosis and 9 criteria is just a list of a way someone is. An Open Letter From those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder: Dear Friends, Family Members, Lovers, Ex-lovers, Coworkers, Children, and others of those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder, You may be frustrated, feeling helpless, and ready to give up. My wife was diagnosed with BPD a number of years ago and it's been more of a battle for her than for me. Part of that process is for the parents to submit to therapy as well. If you have borderline personality disorder (BPD), you might have experience with being called "obsessive.". It's thought. Thank you so much for your honesty and strength. -JB. Whenever that happens it takes her many days to recover, during which periods she will vacillate between seeming to be okay, and seething, and saying things like "I don't trust you. , Rainbow, I am so pleased and happy that this letter will be helpful to you. The mind is very complex. Thank you for reading this. . My own experience with my BPD mother was one in which my father, siblings and I were often blamed for her erratic behavior and unstable feelings. Now she teaches DBT, has written several books and has a blog called, Previous post: Finding peace amongst the turmoil, An Open Letter to People who do Not have Borderline Personality Disorder from Those of Us who Do, this blog (Healing from BPD by Debbie Corso), Remind yourself that the persons behavior isnt your fault, Tap into your compassion for the persons suffering while understanding that their behavior is probably an intense reaction to that suffering, Do things to take care of YOU. Not someone with questionable actions in their past. Talk therapy is the main treatment for BPD. Instead, despite how I dread to say this, I am an outlet for her fears, insecurities and blame. My look on life was empty and my selfimage was terrible. And most importantly, maybe I had a chance to get better. I feel helpless, powerless to get my feelings accross. Punishment and revenge are central to the manifestation of what Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is and means when it comes to relationships. You have said all the things I've always wanted to say to the people who are or who have been in my life. ive stuck with her while she tells people 1365 dif reasons we arent together. Open Letter from those with Borderline Personality Disorder (With Narration and Text) Healing From BPD 16.3K subscribers 529K views 10 years ago Click here to read the full letter in. Thank you for sharing your experience, and wishing you healing and recovery in your family. I want to know that humanity can be beautiful. I have passed it on to my family and friends who support me. Now I don't know what I am. I know it might seem I am heartless, but I have to put my own husband and my 5 children first. I can't be myself around you. I am sorry you didn't have a happy childhood. Of course all of this makes me wonder..maybe i'm just lazy or _____ whatever.and then some family members think I *want* to be depressed or anxious or whatever (they think the origin was my mother's death, 20 yrs ago, but I was depressed before that and have told them). I can only hope with every breath in my body that she can be 'cured' and live a normal and happy life. Can't take their word for anything. The last incident was only a week ago and it took two days and me apologising in the end in order to solve the problem. Its that extreme. Maybe he'll come back to me. Maybe it wasnt all my fault like I was always told and I always believed. He says that the money we spent on therapy and meds has done nothing to help; he doesn't think it's worth it. You never know thoughit could end up being really helpful to hear from others who are going through the very same things as you. OMG. But I fear that she will never forgive me if I maintain I didn't do anything wrong. Life is such a struggle. He told me about the diagnosis of PD but we never discussed it. I imploded at the thought of those same emotions and endless possibilities all leading you to leave me, to this. Now that I know she has BPD, it is too late for me to do anything more to help her. Well I better get off this pitty pottyMy Daughter just called and she is Barking also. Thank you so much for writing this, I am putting it everywhere I can. Simple as a grilled cheese sandwich. I don't harm my self, don't act on impulse, don't fear abandonment I am no longer scared or afraid to live and love. But you say it is possible to recover to heal have hope and a normal life. This is my second year in DBT. Learn DBT Skills Online at EmotionallySensitive.com These are the skills that helped this blogs author overcome BPD! Many times I wanted to give up but he is crying out loud inside that I cannot afford to leave him like that. I did get committed here. Ultimately, the borderline creates their biggest fear. She's 30 years old. Our brains literally disconnect, and our thoughts go somewhere else, as our brains are trying to protect us from additional emotional trauma. My heart breaks each time. It has been the most challenging part of my entire life, I love her unconditionally and with all of my heart yet it never seems to be enough, to be noticed, to be accepted. My hope is that you will gain new insight into your loved ones condition and grow in compassion and understand for both your loved one AND yourself, as this is not an easy road. I have done everything that I know to do for the past 28 years. This is known as PTSD, and it happens to a lot of us, too.). Common triggers include rejection or abandonment in relationships or the resurfacing of a memory of a traumatic childhood event. symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder, Impulsivity and Borderline Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Recovery: What It Can Look Like. She emailed me later saying that it was passive aggressive behavior and that she "gets it" I am the one who ended it. This was very well thought out and appreciated. My wife got me a book back in 2004 called Walking On Egg Shells that has helped me so very much. Your email address will not be published. Yesterday, I had to say goodbye to a dear friend of mine, because I became emotional and said things I never should have. Once calm, the family can together have an open discussion and achieve setting small goals for the person with BPD. this doesn't work for everyone, at all. Listening to your loved one and acknowledging their feelings is one of the best ways to help someone with BPD calm down. I love this person, but the situation can be so hurtful. I want to know that honesty and loyalty exist. We are not mental health professionals nor clinicians. We provide you with a list of stored cookies on your computer in our domain so you can check what we stored. I tried telling them what I KNEW I needed treatment wise, but because it wasn't available to me, they kept telling me I just didn't WANT to get better and wouldn't take the help offered even though I actually did go through all the groups offered, which didn't help because of the other issues I struggled with which they just said was BPDit wasn't. I can tell you, from personal experience, that working on this illness through DBT is worth the fight. Furthermore, symptoms of BPD often manifest themselves as true emotional (and often times physical) abuse toward the children of those who suffer from the disorder. We havent outgrown this. Ask questions. It is possible that something that you said or did triggered us. First of all I want to commend you on your progress and all the hard work that I am sure you have gone through to get to where you are now, especially having the courage to write this letter. I had alter egos and they were the fun ones but I was not me anymore. It's bloody hard work to change your whole life and how you live it. Thank you for taking the time to leave this kind comment, and more importantly, for the wonderful work you are doing to help hurting people. I guess I'm not doing that well enough. And I know it's because I still have so much to learn. I also hope that you engage in self-care to take care of YOU during this stressful time. My ex is a very convincing and extremely intelligent person. It was total and it was overwhelming and it could be cruel." Cassandra Clare. , I am so glad that this letter has helped you find some more compassion and understanding for your daughter. Maybe we should bandage our heads and hearts. I am a male who's spent the last three and a half years dealing with a partner with BPD, do not give up, there are people who love you enough and are strong enough to deal/fight through this with you. , You are a brave and kind man. Thank you so much for your comment and for sharing your own progress. I STRUGGLE to focus. I will try and find your blog, Lots of love Kat. Which has had a negative impact in my own life and relationships. If you have decided to tap into your strength and stand by your loved one with BPD, you probably need support too. Thank you very much for your perspective. Thank you for your wonderful comment. So thank you. I am a Father to 4 amazing children, a full-time worker and a musician suffering with Acute Depression and Borderline Personality Disorder. Debbie now teaches the DBT skills that helped change her life over at. That still doesn't negate the real pain that people with BPD do cause. I am so incredibly happy that you have found some hope! Also, I am very grateful FOR my boyfriend and your article. If there is a problem with our website, please contact us here, 2023 Sanctuary Support Group | Designed by, Debbie Corso had BPD and has recovered. The last few years have been very tough for me on a personal and professional level, but it is always good to read other peoples experiences and how they manage their day-to-day lives. I wish I could get my husband to read this. An Open Letter From Myself, With BPD, To My Loved Ones. And now with this kind, loving man by my side I feel comfortableand so he gets the wrath of this chaotic mind. 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