The bride replied in the comments that Tim no longer feels comfortable around the men in her family, but he does not want to drive a wedge between her and her family. Idk if I'm saying this right, but his insecurities seem to be about both her dad and OP, like he doesn't care because she's not his bio child. Its time for both of them to move out. That's another level. ), such has the son getting the bigger room because he is a man, instead of the two girls who share space and logically would need more room is asinine. I'm sorry about what happened to your gift. NTA How did his kids react when he talked with them about meeting you and your baby? NTA. No punishment of your stepsister will make up for the jealousy and sexism of your stepfather. I suspect its because girls arent supposed to be having sex and a big bed would promote that? I think they focused more on the rest of the movie excluding the ending. NTA. They also failed to teach their kids how to solve their conflicts correctly. NTA. Not that OP allowed the things to happen to them. Like, can y'all read? Your mom has done nothing for you, hasn't protected you from your stepdad's jealousy and insecurity or fought for you (it's ridiculous that they give your stepbrother the bigger room when two people are living in a smaller one, and the fact that you can be locked out of it at your stepsister's whim indicates he wouldn't even give you that if he didn't have to because you essentially don't have a room, just a bed in your stepsister's room. Or at least legally placed in his care until you turn 18. This is a very privileged look at the situation. Don't be bothered by other's actions. She did nothing over and over again, letting her stepchildren beat you into the ground, and now her doing nothing has come back to roost. NTA, this has been building. I hope you know that you did nothing to deserve all of this. I am 100% certain that your uncle already wanted to get you out of there and that the rest of your family was already furious at your mother for marrying a terrible person with terrible children without a second thought about you and your well-being. It sounds like your stepsister and stepbrother are monsters to each other - destroying each others' stuff is not normal, especially for their ages. She deserves everything she gets from your family. I'm glad you have family to support you, and I'm so sorry for your loss. But keep in mind the fact that you were only 16 years old, and if your mom and your stepdad wanted to push the envelope you are legally their responsibility. My sister always had the biggest room while me and my brother shared the smaller one. Youve been abandoned and that has to hurt so bad and its perfectly fine to emotionally express that hurt, pour your heart out to another person, work through the pain and let it go eventually. I can only imagine that your uncle and the rest of your family feel the same way. God forbid these traits are gradually developed and practiced huh? She would have to go to court to get emancipation or have a report made to social servicesif she has moved out then she'll get returned to the same situation. I am confused. Being a good parent is providing basics food shelter love acceptance. You were talking about breaking your own crap, which is still not good, but not in the same league as breaking someone elses stuff specifically to hurt them. She let them treat you like that and this was the last straw. For your mental health; I would stay away from them. Suddenly grandparents and relatives alike are pissed and entitled to see the blood of the other blood they didnt give 2 shits about. You are simply mistaking a reference to the type of social media that one typically socializes with family and loved ones for a general reference to a mass social networking platform. Id worry that your children and potentially you or your mother are in danger if you have contact and if you still have to e communication with the link, report it with the police so its on file, for the future. Just a questionSeeing as OP is underage, would not OP's mom be able to legally get her back to live at home unless OP is emancipated or parental rights are transferred? NTA Your mom chose a new family over you, and honestly I'd probably have beaten my stepsister over something like this. This is one of the best decisions you'll make. Hope you find happiness. She sounds dangerous. NTA. It's because she did nothing that she is also at fault here. NTA. I mean 18-20 year olds regularly share rooms when they go away to college sooooo. Do not let them manipulate you. Maybe you missed that, but it happens however.(and this leads me to my last point). The best thing you can do for your child, if not for yourself and your mother, is to keep those two as far away from the child as you possibly can. 'AITA (Am I the A-hole) for uninviting my family to my wedding after they feminized my fianc?' Salty-groom writes: I(24M) am getting married to my fianc J(23M). There was a lot of yelling and arguing. First part, wholeheartedly agree, second part, not so much. When I was in third grade all the way to 8th, I slept in a bunk bed under my brother(2 years older). NTA. NTA. Ironically, this is addressed in The Lodge. You remind me of my own teen daughter whos considerate and kind. I wasn't able to keep much of his belongings because of my stepdad's insecurities and lack of sympathy and respect for me and my dad. And this is an example of too little too late. Im honestly baffled. Sounds like they wouldn't want to meet anyway? There's of issues in that house that need to be laid out and discussed. Oh so I see you have teenagers tooMy oldest (20f) would sit in the bathroom after school for an hour from about kindergarten on. That support should go until you are 18, or until you graduate high school, whichever comes second. Your mom and SF just look the other way and do nothing. As a person who grew up in an emotionally abusive household with a similar dynamic, I'm sorry you've had to deal with this. You've allowed your step children to abuse your daughter. Agree. You saved yourself from abuse. The dead ex wife is. Now has a new gf moving in last week (I dont live with them). The extended family said it would make more sense to reduce the space of mine and add it to the guest room so there was more comfort for them when they visit. Your mother did everything to deserve being shunned by you by literally allowing her husband (this man does not deserve the title of stepfather) to walk all over you, and letting him allow his kids to do this to you. They are toxic. Adults destroying each others stuff over petty crap. I know the comments are giving the message loud and clear, but when your entire family is telling your mum to go take a long walk off a short pier as well and saying she's terrible, please know you've done the right thing here. NTA. But our local court system heavily favored mom's at the time (it's changed a lot since then). Mom is saying I'm exaggerating and should let bygones be bygones and not let this ruin my relationship with my family. I'm glad you have an Uncle that cares and was willing to get you out of there. To be clear, your mom was perfectly fine to move on, but she should have taken steps to ensure you were processing your grief in a healthy way, and that you were comfortable with the change in environment. Nope. Step sis knowingly damaged her brother's properly, and punished you because he lied to get you to help him destroy something of hers. They're in their 30s and still acting like this? It says he put them in therapy to cope with the death of their mom.sounds like years of BS and abuse up until then..and yes therapy definitely isnt a cure all.I didnt say hes a shitty parent I said hes an AH which he is..I said what I said..he has audacity to even suggest his abusive crotch demons be introduced to her child.it sounds like hes minimizing or choosing to sweep it under the rug all together and getting in his feelings when she chooses otherwise. Dont let them guilt you into going back there if you can avoid it, youll be so much happier knowing youre with people who arent selfish and care about you, and respect what youve been through and are still going through. They could try to harm OP and/or child in their insanity. They definitely should have moved to a bigger house with an extra bedroom or they should have sectioned off another room in the house for one of you. Actually, none of them counts, except for the top comment which gives the ruling. No! In the post titled "AITA for uninviting my cousin, brother, uncle and dad to my wedding over a prank?" the bride, 22, explained that she grew up in a family where the men like to tease and prank . At this point though, Im just spitballing thoughts about meaning and such. My grandparents had the same attitude regarding their home. Of course Im not suggesting anything but have you exhausted avenues to get them to stop or even sue them for defamation if they did slander your mom? They need therapy. It'll be better for you to call her Mrs. ___ and treat her as any woman on the street. This right here, her and her brother seem like very petty people who will wreck other people belongings no matter how personal and important it is to them for 'revenge'. NTA. These people wished death upon your mother, I think saying they are "vicious and twisted" is the least of his concerns. Your stepbrother used you, your stepsister abuses you, and your mother has done little to set ground rules for them on how to actually treat you. However, if you have been entitled to some form of social security, this may be something you want to bring up to a trusted adult. Man I had no idea /s. Its "AITA for uninviting my dad because he took back the money he promised" Put any disclaimers you want, you say its not the money but it absolutely is. Your mother has done absolutely nothing to help you. She did little to nothing for you when it came to putting your needs above or at least on par with your stepfamily. I'm sorry, but you need to let this go." She chose a side and its not yours. It seems like only your uncle can think about your wellbeing. NTA. She is 18. You would also receive the death benefit from your Dad if you were emancipated, SS can send the payment directly to you. The stepsister is obviously a major AH who gets away with damaging her brothers console for no apparent reason, is allowed to lock OP out of her own bedroom so she can do her art, and viciously destroys something precious to OP in retaliation to something her brother actually did. His bio kids have been groomed so well to be so full of hate for you both. Its not automatically sexist, it could be, but it could also not be. Thats your mothers fault, not yours. And the fact your uncle saw right through thier BS just proves that they are in the wrong on all counts. The Mom - Maybe I'm wrong, but parents should care more about their children's feelings than what their images look. Your stepdad is delusional. Your horrid step siblings don't deserve courtesy, but it sounds like your dad really loves you and has been put through a heart-wrenching experience. Honestly considering your story, I think it's odd that he would even ask. If your mom ever wants to live with you again, tell her the two adult children need to find their on places to live. mum makes me sick. Let those who celebrate with you enjoy your happiness, everybody else can be forgotten. Right? Thats a toxic environment, you're NTA, glad you moved with your uncle now. "The more people know about Alexey," a pro-Navalny volunteer tells Newsweek, "the harder it will be for the Russian authorities to kill him in prison.". You can't be serious. Don't cut contact. But because of the dark subject matter (and the ending which, spoiler alert, had an "act of God" take care of punishing the CHILD villain in order to comply with the Hays code by blowing her to smithereens! Im so happy the OP has caring, supportive extended family. You say your gift to your dad was not the best. Your mother needs to get her priorities straight. You don't need those people in your life, bringing back bad memories, especially when you're expecting a baby. It wasnt their own bathroom. Her dad said they would all apologize if she insisted, but that Tim would "lose the little respect" that the men had gained for him. Here's hoping OP can stick at her uncle's house. NTA. You are not bound to them. NTA in any way, your mom is supposed to advocate for you. I would definitely be upset in this situation. Then she allows her daughter to be bullied by these grown children including being locked out of her own room regularly and essentially being blamed for 20yos retaliation against 18yo when he lied to OP to gain access to his sisters tools. Why on Earth would OP want to live with those people?! Except no one will tolerate that behavior from a 9 year old and shes only going to get worse when she realizes the whole world doesnt bow to her whims. Some ideas: Somewhere you can lock up your valuables and sentimental items so your stepsister cant get to them, the removal of the lock on the door, for them to step up and enforce the rules when stepsister is being unfair to you. Your mom should want what makes you happy and if you're happier being away from your bratty, spoiled insecure stepsister then she shouldn't stop you. Not all the asshole. Honestly, it's not up to you to mend these fences. If privacy is that huge of an issue just set up a curtain splitting the room in half or something. If they make you move back in with them until youre 18, at least you know whats right in your heart. Your mom had the right idea and they wanted nothing to do with her. It's all personal interactions in an electronic medium. Apologize for what? Sure, legally an adult but 18 is still live at home age for 90% of kids. Hope youre able to salvage something for your dad. But your mother is a major AH too for letting all this happen to you. That chapter is now closed. I seriously doubt it. NTA.. You aren't required to allow them in your life because of "family".. NTA, so its ok in his extended families eyes for his kids to treat you worse than garbage but when you call them out on their blatant disrespect and outright bullying you are TA? The whole family besides OP seem to be acting like petulant children. I f25 along with my two brothers Dean & Kevin (both 30s) went through rough time during our parents divorce, mom got married to my stepdad and we lived with him for years. First her dad dies and mom moves on rather quickly, then she has a stepsibling joining her bedroom because it's just easier. A mistake was made, people learn, move on. I f16 live with my mom, step dad, and stepsister (18) and stepbrother(20). Nothing you said was incorrect and if it was suggested I let people like that near my kid Id have said worse. Wdym the oldest and different gender sibling gets the other room what is unreasonable about it??? Theres obviously some deep rooted issues that they have to fix themselves. Shes a pathetic excuse for a parent and OP should go NC with her unless she comes to her senses. You are NTA in this situation. Stay with your uncle, at least your extended family cares about you. Very sad. Sure, a guy probably needs his own room when it comes to a sister and step-sister situation, but why would he get the larger of the two rooms if he isn't sharing? In the 13-18 range is when many go really crazy with it. He tried similar things when he had me for visitation as a toddler that, among other things he did, led to me needing therapy since age 3. Yeah, she got punished, but it sounds like you have been living a stressful life. you made an innocent mistake trusting that that your stepbrother told the truth. What was done to you was vile, beyond hurtful and inconsiderate. You are better at standing up for yourself. You are definitely NTA. You should be a priority now and forever. Shoot it doesn't even have to be about that. My absolute favourite example of what the Hays code did to creative material during those decades. I thought they were like under 10. She didnt do anything to protect your fathers memory for you. Youre not obligated to have toxic people around you. And there is nothing wrong with that. Sadly at 16, you're more emotionally mature than all of them at that house. NTA. She has severe anger issues and a lot of pent-up bitterness. About his kids, don't let those demon spawn anywhere near your child or into your home. If it will be emotionally overwhelming to do it over phone, text her. It honestly sounds like youre better off at your uncles and away from that toxic abusive household. If your moyher and stepfather have let their bratty immature stupid behaviour happen for years, your better out of that house. Mom also helped create this situation by sticking girls in a room when they are constantly in conflict. Allow SS to abuse OP Oh, you relate to those kids because their mum died and you're convinced the new girlfriend is to blame? She made my pain so much worse, and didnt even care. You stick with your uncle love. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. I dont know about studies. "They'd asked him questions like what joke he'd like to tell his future MIL, his opinions on abortion, jesus, gender equality etc," the post explained. Your stepfamily abused you and your mom allowed it to happen. Standing by and letting her husband throw away keepsakes and belongings of your dad and her late husband never should have happened. And yes, my bro and I had our struggles too. Your step sister should not be making the rules in that household, but it seems there is a lack of authority coming from your mom & stepdad and that they avoid getting involved until it blows up to a point they can no longer ignore. She said her cousin is "begging" that they talk, but her uncle hasn't said anything. Your moms family recognizes this and thats why they have your back and dont want to talk to her, so please dont put that blame on yourself because its not your fault. Why would a boy need a big bed while a girl wouldnt? Im sure she had no problem spending or getting your stepdad to agree to keep any SS benefit she gets for you for your dad having passed away. Your step-siblings sound toxic af. I can't imagine what crazy bullshit they can come up with as reasoning to "get back" at you, your mom, or your kid). I had to re-read to see how old they were. think I'm TA because it upset him that I would speak that way about his kids. I hope you stay with your uncle and be around family that actually cares for you. Your mom has enabled this and not stood up for you. If you need to talk feel free to pm me. You having a stepdad so insecure that you couldn't keep the keepsakes of your father was so disrespectful it should have been a nonstarter. Im sorry these adults still believe that your mum cursed their mum to die. Sounds like both parents failed spectacularly here. She birthed you, but has no maternal attachment to you. How the fuck "did she nothing to deserve to be shunned by you" if she already failed at the most basic task of giving you a room to live in? Also you dont know if theyd be willing to hurt your child and its not worth the risk. The step dad is an AH too because of not letting her keep some of her dads belongings because of his insecurities. How can he rationally expect you to have a sibling relationship with people who treat you, and someone you love, so viciously? Was it unbearable? Some bridges are meant to be burned. NTA- how were you supposed to know what your stepbrother intended to do with the paints? But since they have to share, its possible one of the girls will use the bathroom to get some space more. Reddit has shown me that step family stuff can be hell on earth, you've proved that again. AITA for uninviting my step-dad from my 16th? I guess what I am saying is, given your siblings' recent history how could you not see this coming when he asked you for help? What does that even mean? OP is wise to get out, cause 18 and 20 year olds acting like that isn't something that will get better out of the blue. Stepbrother responded in retaliation for stepsister ruining his gaming console, and the stepbrother did not destroy a floral arrangement that OP handmade for her deceased father on father's day. They like being married because they had a good marriage. I'd someone did this to my kid I would pack their stuff immediately. You deserve to have family who dont make things worse. Not sure what world you live in, but not everyone can afford housing with separate rooms for each person. She's allowed your stepsiblings to completely railroad you. Nta, your family sound like giant bags of garbage. Its not even for cases of abuse. If her mom can't successfully manage the situation it's best that OP find another place to stay. No where does it say a basic need is your own room after the age of 10. Your Mother and the entire step family are all assholes. Your mom also did nothing to set boundaries or punishments for others damaging your property. This seems like a last-straw sort of thing, and for once on this subreddit it comes down in favor of the victim. And once you get emancipated/have a custody situation figured out go NC with her and her husband's family permanently. I 've always considered reddit to be a "forum" but not really a "social media" website, hmm. They will just bring drama . exactly what I was thinking to the OP oh honey I just want to give you a hug .. Im so sorry you were trapped in this increasingly abusive situation thanks to your mom. It must have been difficult for all of you. (I picked up flowers I planted from our small garden that I take care of by myself. She also can't absolutely blame your siblings or step-father. They are vile and it's not on you to keep trying. If you trust your uncle, you can talk to him about it. Just because she didnt actively join in with them in making your life hell doesnt mean shes innocent, by not choosing a side she chose the abusers and you have every right to not want her in your life. Simply because she was willing to move on romantically doesn't mean she could expect that you were at a place in your grief or that her partner's children were open, to sharing a home. My dad fought in court to get that crap to stop, he fought with his kids on being cruel and disrespectful and he even tried to reason with his ex. Maybe stepdad can help move SB and SS into their own apartment or something. NTA. That's on the parents for not nipping that right in the bud. Don't move back. If you decide to move in with another family member, you may need to go back to your parents' place to pick up important stuff; I wouldn't put it past the stepsister or stepbrother to wreck more stuff while your gone. Considering the default reaction of anyone in your stepfamily is to destroy things when angry, distance is probably for the best right now. I f25 along with my two brothers Dean & Kevin (both 30s) went through rough time during our parents divorce, mom got married to my stepdad and we lived with him for years. OP I hope youre able to have the loving and respectful environment you deserve from now on. Im still trying to wrap my head around any sane mother who would allow their daughter to be locked out of their bedroom for any length of time. If you live him as a dad, let him know that too. I'm glad you can rely on your uncle, because you can't rely on your mother. i mean your mom is right, she did nothing. nothing to protect you or care for you or see that you were safe and happy and able to be in your own home without harassment. NTA. His love didn't just vanish for them one day. Your situation was already toxic once your stepdad refused to let you keep your fathers belongings and your mom didnt stand up for you. Having said that shes your only mother, try to see her alone on neutral ground to keep a connection with her. Why do these other people think they even WANT to mend fences with you? Again not saying anything bad about OP, OP made a mistake and this can be a learning experience. if you do move back demand your own room, so your step brother and step sister can deal with themselves. Theyre ALL the real AH. This was what pushed you over the line. "In my family we tease each other and play jokes and trust me this is not what we do! "The contact would have ceased after the slashed tires for me," another added. That would be really hurtful and degrading. See about getting some therapy if your uncle can afford it for you. The woman was then left questioning whether she'd made the wrong decision in siding with her brothers and uninviting her stepdad. NTA my cousins are the same way with my mom and I refuse to ever have a relationship with them. The fact your stepfather took away all of your father's belongings from you is disgusting and downright disrespectful to you. I'm not surprised she moved out. Read this before contacting the mod team. It sounds very chaotic, not just in this incident, but most of the time. You mom deserves what she gets as she certainly was not looking out for you. NTA. Seven kids in my house growing up and the bathroom became the place to call friends, have quiet time, or even cry among other things lol. Maybe be extra nice to your dad, he is having it rough. Sounds like the presence of the right sex organs and an incomplete X chromosome is all it takes. NTA. So NTA. NTA x 3000. Guest rooms are supposed to be practical and nice for a couple of nights, but remember, when guests get too comfortable in there they overstay their welcome." That just sounds All levels of disturbing on their end. "sometimes the worst action to take, is to take no action at all", sometimes the worst action to take, is to take no action at all. So already, OP is at a disadvantage because it's already their home. So we reclaimed that master bedroom. Why are step parents so bad? For being disrespectful. Not larger people, not only people who toss and turn. Any and all pee stains on my mattress(and there are a fair few) well they weren't mine. Primarily Dad because A. Your stepbrother misrepresented the paint set situation. They told my mom they hoped she would die a slow and painful death. She's mad at my stepdad and stepsister and the whole family is in conflict because of me moving out though I could've agreed to get it fixed and let it go. Your mother should have put her foot down a long time ago. I think what's actually worse is that the post doesn't even say that it was his wife that he was upset about having those things. Uninviting My Stepson From Our Anniversary Trip To Disney World, My Husband Feels Bad For His - AITAThere are 4 stories0:00 Story 14:11 Story 28:25 Story 311. I mean: I can see why the brother retaliated - but not how 18yos solution to arguments keeps being destroying someone elses important stuff- Twice! Come on, just have a small amount of suspicions at least. The values your step-dad holds ( maybe your mom too? I agree it's common sense if OP was an actual adult. I am sorry your gift to you father was ruined. Allowed you to be made to feel unloved and unwelcome. Very much depends on the people who do the sharing. I would not trust them to be around your LO. Nta. He may. I think "NTA". Well I disagree. What he did in response was not ok and made the situation worse. Yea your mom is a fucking asshole for making you live in this hostile environment. In the post, she said she told her family to stop but her dad replied that it was "typical stuff men challenge each other with" and that she was "ruining the fun. Definitely NTA. NTA, protect your kids, those people are crazy. Theu dont count the judgement then. It is your mothers duty to look out for you and protect you first and maintain family unity second. Considering that step siblings are adults. They are mad at her because she is choosing to fail to do her job as your parent. You deserve some peace and quiet. It's too late to turn the corner on that. At all. NTA. Nobody is attacking him. Please stay with your uncle indefinitely, and be fully open with your family about everything that happened at the hands of your stepfamily and your mom. 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